Mindful Living ~ for a Peace Filled Life

Have you ever had a day when your thoughts just kept you all wound up with worry and anxiety, to where coping with your life becomes quite difficult? I have, and so do many people I know. Well there is something I have learned through mindfulness and meditation that is very helpful for navigating any emotionally stressful situation you may find yourself in.

With mindfulness you practice staying in the present moment, not worrying about the past or future. You also look deeply into yourself and recognize your feelings for what they are. You embrace your feelings using mindful breathing and inner dialogue to address and transform the feeling. This is very helpful, but I have learned a new step that for me, makes the process even more effective.

One option I use to mindfully acknowledge the feeling is by saying:

  • “Hello (anxiety, fear, sadness, anger…) my old friend. I see you are here again.”

I then use my new tool, “surrender” to release the feeling with love, allowing myself to enjoy profound new levels of peace.

  • “Hello (anxiety, fear, sadness, anger…) my old friend. I see you are here again.”
  • “I have turned you over to Jesus, so you will have to take it up with him.”

By releasing or surrendering my fear, pain, anxiety, sadness, worry or any negative feeling I am experiencing to God, Jesus, the Creator of the Universe, I am acknowledging the feeling and its validity for being here. I am now simply sending it to a new department to address its needs.

This technique is also very helpful for releasing the desire to control others; or be in control of situations, where it is either not your responsibility to deal with it, or it is not in your best interests to be involved. Or it may be a situation where you really are unable to do anything about it, but you worry and stress over it anyway.

Simply address the situation, or feeling, or person’s name you are feeling the desire to control, and try this practice of acknowledgement, surrender and release with either the above option, or try this one paraphrased from Marianne Williamson, Author of ‘Return to Love,” and numerous other books as well as follows:

  • (Name, Feeling or Situation) “I love you, (I forgive you..if needed) I release you… (into God’s loving care.) You are free and I am free. Let there be nothing but love between us.”

The point is to address and name the source of your feeling. Trying to control others or situations that we should not, will cause both ourselves and others to suffer needlessly. Looking deeply into the source of what we are feeling, that is causing us to suffer; helps us to find the way out of our suffering.  These three steps are expressed in the three noble truths in Buddhism:

  1. We all suffer.
  2. Looking deeply into the source of our suffering helps us to understand it.
  3. Understanding the source of our suffering helps us transform it, and find the way out of our suffering.

Understanding ourselves and others helps us to practice loving-kindness and compassion for everyone. No teaching will benefit us if we do not put it into practice. Practicing the teachings of your spiritual beliefs can become a very deep form of prayer.

Jesus taught that we should love our enemies, and pray for those who mistreat us. He demonstrated great compassion and love for others in the way he lived his life here on earth. His life and teachings are great sources of inspiration for me. Buddha taught that we should love and seek to understand our enemies as well. He said that once we understand them, we will have compassion for them, and then they are no longer our enemy. Lao Tzu also taught to elevate others with our words and deeds, to not cast the wicked person out, but to help them cast out the wickedness.

When we acknowledge the needs and suffering of others, we help them to heal. When we acknowledge our needs and feelings, we help ourselves to heal. Surrendering our feelings, and the need to control a situation, over which we either cannot or should not be in control; will help us become free to experience true peace.

Accepting how things are, and acknowledging how I feel about that, followed by surrendering my feelings, to the greatest healer in all the Universe; brings me the greatest sense of peace I have ever known.

Living a life of mindfulness and surrender, can give you the tools you need to create inner guidelines to practice for inner peace.  I wish you to very best on your own journey to achieve, healing, balance and inner peace. Be blessed.



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To Vanquish Fear

I once had a terrifying dream, in which I was visited by the incarnation of fear. Hand shadows danced across the ceiling in frightful dread, as a sound welled up from the floor like the waking dead. Frozen with fear I watched as a monstrous being slowly rose up through the floor, making the horrible sound I heard! Silently I prayed for deliverance from this terrifying being. In my dream I was joined by others who prayed with me for deliverance from the fearful menace. Suddenly, in a flash of light the dreadful incarnation vanished, replaced by a shining Angelic watcher. The angel spoke to me saying, “One thing you have yet to overcome. You must overcome fear.” At this point I woke in a cold sweat to consider the dream in depth.

How does one overcome fear? I mean seriously, there are more things to be downright terrified about then you can wrap your mind around. Especially when it comes to the unknown, that can really strike up some cold chills of fear in anyone. I have long considered the dream, and its advice to overcome my fears. I was not until recently that I began to see some clear answers on how this might be done.

Our first clue is mentioned in 1 John 4:18, where it says “18 There is no fear in love, but perfect love drives out fear, because fear involves punishment. The one who fears has not been perfected in love..”

What is perfect love? How does it vanquish or drive out fear?

A second clue according to Thich Nhat Hanh, in his eloquently beautiful book “Living Buddha, Living Christ,” “touching nirvana or the ultimate dimension is a total and unconditional surrender to God.” He than gives an example of a wave “knowing” its being is water, it overcomes all fear and sorrow.” The moment we surrender our entire being to God as the ground of our being, all our fears vanish.

My third clue in the words of Thomas Merton, …”an unconditional and totally humble surrender to God, a total acceptance of ourselves and our situation as willed by him…” I believe he is saying here that this brings us to a place of peace and acceptance of all our circumstances, past, present and future in such a childlike trust in God’s loving care and plan for our life, that fear is vanquished completely! This simple childlike trust in God’s love and care for us will not give fear a place to be in our hearts and minds. Believing that you are deeply and unconditionally loved, and cared for by God, who is well able to “work all things together for your good” will set you free from fear.

Perfect love then is the greatest unconditional love of all, a gift from our Father in heaven. It casts out fear by removing any place for it to dwell within our being. Trust in and surrender to that unconditional love sets you free!

Namaste, and have a wonderful day! I wish you all great love, peace and freedom from the fears that hold you back from living a happier and more successful life.

Here are a few quotes on overcoming fears I hope you all enjoy!

Keridwan ❤


  • “Who sees all beings in his own self, and his own self in all beings, loses all fear.”
    — Isa Upanishad, Hindu Scripture
  • “I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”
    — Nelson Mandela

(Source: https://www.positivityblog.com/22-inspirational-quotes-on-fear/)

  • It’s not the thing you fear that has power over you, it’s your fear of that thing that has power over you.-Eddie Harris Jr
  • Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.–Marie Curie
  • You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in the mind.~Dale Carnegie

(Read more https://www.focusfied.com/fear-quotes/)

  • “The only way to ease our fear and be truly happy is to acknowledge our fear and look deeply at its source. ~ Thich Nhat Hanh



My Father’s Blessing

While no human being is perfect by any means, and we all have our strengths and weaknesses; the role of a Father should not be underestimated. I count myself as very blessed for having a Father who never cheated on my Mom, and never left us to fend for ourselves. He always has been faithful to provide for us, and to help us to learn how to be the best people we could possibly be. While he did make mistakes like we all do, he did his best to learn from those mistakes and to change, grow and become a better person. I have also forgiven him for his mistakes, even as I have been so lovingly forgiven by him for my mistakes growing up. I greatly admire him for always seeking to better understand things and learn better ways of relating to others.

Even when it came to his spiritual beliefs, I greatly admire him for having the courage to study and learn what was the truth in their spiritual situation. When he found it was different then he had previously believed, he very courageously, and at great personal cost, made the changes he and my Mom believed were needed to stand by their new understanding of spiritual truth.

By his courageous example, my Dad taught me to seek answers to my questions, and to not just settle for an unsatisfactory answer. He also demonstrated by his life to be dependable and trustworthy, loving, forgiving, kind and faithful. I also admire how he stuck with his educational dreams and finished college with a Bachelor’s degree in Industrial Arts. After working for many years as a school teacher; he learned a new trade by getting his CDL license and driving a road grader for 12 years. After so much time as a teacher, I think he really enjoyed the peacefulness and solitude of caring for the rural roads in his part of the world.

Today so many people are unhappy with their lives and marriage partners. They will often try to go it alone. While I did this myself, and can see why many people choose this path, it is not often the best choice. In cases of severe abuse or unfaithfulness it is necessary. But if your spouse is not abusive or being unfaithful to you, it is much better for the children if you try to work it out. It is so hard for a single parent to adequately raise children alone. They all suffer financially, and the single parent has very little time or energy to invest in actually teaching the children how to be the best possible person they can be. A babysitter or daycare cannot properly raise a child, nor can a school.

Speaking from experience it is very hard as a single Parent to properly raise or provide for children. It is much better for children to have both a Mother and a Father, along with grandparents and aunts and uncles to help them to grow up to be the best possible person they can be. It truly takes a loving and supportive community to properly raise a child. When a parent has to go it alone, it is best if other family members or church members if family is unavailable can step in and help.

Part of a Father’s blessing is to give the Mother the time and financial support to be able to nurture their children. A Father has a very difficult role. He will challenge you, and make you think and reconsider, if what you are thinking, planning to do, or doing is really the best course of action for you to take. He looks ahead and warns of trouble down the road, trying to spare you pain. He also provides a much-needed buffer to protect the Mother from being used and abused by the children. Without a Father children tend to be very manipulating towards the Mother, taking advantage of her kind and nurturing nature. They may also grow up to be very self-centered without adequate training on being empathetic towards others and their needs. When only one parent is present it is overwhelming to adequately train the children in becoming fully balanced and functional human beings, in addition to keeping a roof over the families heads and food on the table. It can be done, but with great difficulty.

The grass is never greener on the other side of the fence, even though it appears to be. If at all possible if you have children, for their sake it is better to try to make your current relationship better than to throw in the towel due to differences and petty grievances. Our relationships are much like gardens. they need constant care and nurturing to flourish and become the passionate experience we may desire. It is well worth the time to invest in each other and create your own little piece of heaven on earth.

My Mom and Dad have not had an easy life, but they never gave up on each other or on any of their children. They have demonstrated over the years a truly incredible legacy of unconditional love and dedication to each other and their children. I will always be deeply grateful to them in countless ways!

Namaste, and thank you, to all the Dads who have stood by their wives and children, through thick and thin. Thank you also to all the Dad’s who in spite of many difficult circumstances including failed marriages; still did their best to be involved in their children’s lives and helped to support them as best they could. In many cases Fathers have raised their children alone, or with a new partner.  To me I believe that a Dad’s  greatest blessing is the gift of his love and faithfulness to be there for his children!

Thank you, to my Dad for always being there for me! I Love you always! By your example you showed me what unconditional love is! Unconditional love is the greatest gift anyone can give!





Mindfulness ~ To Improve Work Performance

The concept of “Mindfulness is the self-regulation of attention with an attitude of curiosityopenness, and acceptance” (*) to help you to refocus your mind on the present. The practice of mindfulness can help us in many ways, not just with our spiritually. Like many people, I tend to be easily distracted and my mind will wander down many different trails as I try to get my work done. This leads to lost work productivity, and many derailed trains of thought, as a “squirrel” runs around inside my head!

I have been studying the concepts of mindfulness and practicing them to develop both my inner and outer worlds in a more balanced fashion. I am always looking for ways to be more efficient and increase my productivity at work. It recently occurred to me to try using my mindfulness training at work as well. I am happy to say it is helping me to increase my speed and productivity, and reduce work errors as well.

Although my mind still wanders after imaginary squirrels, I gently call it back into focus each time, and use my breathing as a conscious anchor to reality so I can get my work done more efficiently and effectively. Here are the benefits I have noticed so far from my practice.

  • Increased focus on my tasks
  • Less errors and more productivity
  • Reduced work stress

To accomplish this, I begin by simply:

  1. Focusing for a few breaths on my breathing to calm and anchor myself.
  2. Consciously focusing on each step I am performing in my task.
  3. Check my work for errors at the end of each repetition.
  4. Complete the task, and begin the next step or task.
  5.  If I lose my focus, I return to my breathing, to reconnect with myself and the task at hand.

I also take some time to consider if I can do my task in a new way that will be more efficient or more effective in some way. I recently helped create a method to save paper, toner and money for my department by suggesting we go paperless in our processing. The new paperless processing procedure  saves both time and money for our Company.

Another thing I do to help motivate myself at work and keep my production higher is by setting small short term goals for myself, with rewards like a walk outside, or a snack I want when completed. I also set goals for my daily and weekly tasks to help me increase my productivity. You may try similar tactics and see if they will help you in your productivity as well.

Whether used for personal or spiritual growth, or for increased productivity at work the concepts of mindfulness can bring us the results we are seeking. Mindfulness helps us to focus and remain present in this moment, that we are now experiencing. It helps us to stop being on a perpetual autopilot, where we just exist and take most things for granted.

I invite you to utilize this valuable tool in your daily tasks, to help you stay focused and productive at work and home.









(*) Quote Source: Ryan M. Niemiec Psy.D.  


A Legacy of Love

My Mom and Dad recently celebrated their 60th wedding anniversary on June 9th! They had a really nice time together celebrating the day with friends, and reminiscing about their special day 60 years ago, when they first said, “I do..” To me they are both a great source of inspiration, wisdom and love! Although I live some distance away, I call often to visit with them on the phone. I really enjoy spending time with them whether in person or over the phone.

Seeing how hard they have worked on their relationship to keep it happy and keep each other both loved and well over the years has been an incredible journey to be a part of. I admire them a great deal! In this day and age of instant gratification, brief relationships, and broken families; much can be learned from the generation who believed in fixing what was broken, rather then throwing it away to be replaced by a new one.

My Mom once told me she and Dad never considered divorce an option. They always clung to their faith in God to guide them, and their love for one another to help them through all the hardships the years brought them. I trust he will continue to bless them and help them throughout their remaining years. God is so faithful and good to us. Many of the problems and hardships we endure in this world could be avoided if we chose to follow the path of Divine love. To live with loving-kindness, compassion and forgiveness as our constant guides, we will have much happier lives.

I am deeply grateful to my parents, for the legacy of love they have set before me. An example of unconditional love, kindness, compassion and forgiveness that carried them through 60 years of both good times and bad. They always have practiced “not letting the sun go down on their anger.” They seek to settle things as soon as possible, and live peacefully with each other, and friends, neighbors and family too.

My Dads favorite bible verse is 1 Corinthians 13, and my Moms is Galatians 5:1. I think these and many other inspiring passages they love have helped them through all these years, still together, very much in love and still holding hands!

My parents legacy taught me this, not with just these words from 1 Corinthians 13, but by their example.

  • Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
  • It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
  • Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
  • It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
  • Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
  • For we know in part and we prophesy in part,
  • 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears.
  • 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.
  • 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
  • 13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”

May your life also be blessed with a life time of love for our Creator, yourself and family members, along with all your friends, co-workers and people you encounter along the way.

Namaste. Practice, Love, kindness, compassion and forgiveness, and peace will bless your life, come what may.





I hope you all enjoy this post on deciding what you want to do, and then go do that. As my son recently told me, why don’t you just start writing already? I took his advise, and started this blog. Happy trails to all! Keridwan

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I’m now on the 28th day of my very own self-imposed 30-day blog post challenge which also propelled me to restart doing other things I love and one of those things is reading my books, particularly Jack Canfield’s The Success Principles.

I already mentioned before that I bought this book in 2009. I started reading it and finished a few chapters, then life happened and before I know it, years have passed and I haven’t continued reading the book. So I started reading it again from Chapter 1. And now, I’m already on Chapter 31. Yey!

Below are my blog posts about Jack Canfield’s Success Principles so far:

Today’s blog post will be about Jack Canfield’s 3rd success principle: HOW TO DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT.

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Mindfulness for Happy Peaceful Fruit

I am sure you all enjoy being around people who just seem to radiate positive loving energy out to everyone around them. When they walk into the room, it’s like a ray of sunshine on a cloudy day. Just being around them makes you feel better and more productive. Whereas the grumpy, gloomy bossy people just drain you of your energy and make you miserable! We are all capable of being that radiant person, who lights up the room, or the grumpy Gus, always complaining and drawing everybody down.

“When you practice mindfulness, you enjoy within you the fruit of the practice. You are happy and peaceful, and your happiness and peace radiate around you for others to enjoy.” “When you do this, you are sending many “sambhogakaya” or “bodies of bliss” into the world to help relieve the suffering of living beings.” “Each of us has the capacity of transforming many living beings if we know how to cultivate the seed of enlightenment within ourselves.” Thich Nhat Hanhimages (11) in “Living Buddha Living Christ.’

Mindfulness is simply focusing your awareness on what you are thinking, doing,  and saying in this present moment. Cultivating the seed of enlightenment, has to do with practicing our mindfulness and watering all the seeds within us, with this awareness combined with loving compassionate energy, in order to transform our unpleasant feelings into happier and more pleasant ones.

To me mindfulness is like that soft inner voice that reminds me to practice loving-kindness and compassion for myself and others each day.

At work I am always listening and watching for an opportunity to help out by lifting someone’s mood with a smile or bit of humor, a complement or thank you for a job well done; or simply by holding the door for someone, or letting a car in front of you in traffic. There are so many little things we can do to make our daily world a brighter and happier place. When you do these little kindnesses, you will find seeing the relief or happiness or comfort you brought another, will lift your spirit too.

To enjoy a happier work week and better home life too, seek to cultivate these fruits in your minds inner garden; as described in Galatians 5:22 here: ” 22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love,  joy, peace, patience,kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no Law.…”

I know both at work and home this can be difficult to do, when deadlines are looming and stress comes crowding in around you. At times like this I suggest pausing for a few deep breaths to collect your thoughts and energy. If possible take a short break to regroup. I love to go for brief walks outside around our buildings. We have beautifully landscaped grounds with many sidewalks offering areas to go walking. This helps me to renew my energy and focus. I am then better able to address the many tasks at hand.

When dealing with co-workers who may be less than kind as they deal with their stress consider this quote I love from Lao Tzu in The Tao Te Ching.

  • “If a person seems wicked, do not cast him away. Awaken him with your words, elevate him with your deeds, repay his injury with your kindness. Do not cast him away; cast away his wickedness.” ~ Lao Tzu

I have found both in school and at work that if a person is unkind or teases you in an irritating way, if you do not take it personally, but simply look at the humorous side of the situation and laugh it off; you will win far more friends, and become the target of many less jokes than if you react with anger and get  upset by what they said or did.

We all carry the happy peaceful seeds of enlightenment within us. If we nourish these seeds and let them grow, we can become the person who lights up the room with their presence. I pray that your practice is successful in lifting your burdens, so your stress is easier to bear. By mindfully focusing on your breathing as needed, you can elevate your energy and radiate peace and happiness all around you for others to share.

“This little light of mine…I’m going to let it shine..” 😀 Namaste, Peace to you in all your endeavors.




The power of a Compliment

Great article! Thank you for sharing!

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I like to conclude my yoga classes on an inspiring reading or a quote. Yesterday, I chose Thich Naht Hanh words on Empathy. Not the best idea of the week.

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The reading did not really do the trick with my SAHM students. A friend of mine, usually pretty shy, asked “how about compassion for ourselves? So exhausting to constantly practice empathy. We embody empathy, for our children, for our busy husband, for basically everyone. At least when we have an “official” job, we have a boss who acknowleges the work done once a year. Someone who tells us we did great, encourages us and even gives us a bonus . Sometimes I wonder if there is someone who would see me as this lettuce 🙂 “.

What a brilliant point she has made. Compassion for oneself is easy to say.. but in practice?

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The Positive Power of Laughter! :D

What is it about a good laugh that can just melt your stress away, and turn a bad day back into a good day? How can we utilize this wonderful gift more often?

I was busy at work today as usual, and could hear one of my co-workers getting more and more stressed as her work load piled up on her, and customers yelled at her on the phone despite her best efforts to explain procedures that needed to be followed in order for her to help them resolve their issues. Finally after one particularly difficult call, I turned to her and calmly suggested that perhaps that last customer really needed a laxative, and that was why he was so uptight and cranky with her!

Thankfully that did the trick for her! It was wonderful to see her stress melt away into spasms of much-needed laughter! Afterwards she thanked me for the comic relief, and said from now on when people are uptight and cranky with her she is going to think of that comment to help her get past it.

Laughter truly has many wonderful benefits for our health. Here are a couple to consider:

“Laughter is a powerful antidote to stress, pain, and conflict. Nothing works faster or more dependably to bring your mind and body back into balance than a good laugh. Humor lightens your burdens, inspires hopes, connects you to others, and keeps you grounded, focused, and alert. It also helps you to release anger and be more forgiving.”

The link between laughter and mental health

  • Laughter stops distressing emotions. You can’t feel anxious, angry, or sad when you’re laughing.
  • Laughter helps you relax and recharge. It reduces stress and increases energy, enabling you to stay focused and accomplish more.
  • Laughter shifts perspective, allowing you to see situations in a more realistic, less threatening light. A humorous perspective creates psychological distance, which can help you avoid feeling overwhelmed and diffuse conflict.
  • Laughter draws you closer to others, which can have a profound effect on all aspects of your mental and emotional health.

(Source: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-health/laughter-is-the-best-medicine.htm)

In considering how to help each other through our work day, and any other time where someone needs some stress relief, sometimes the kindest and most compassionate thing you can do is give each other a wonderful break with a reason to smile and laugh over the situation at hand. Look for opportunities to share some laughter with those you love, and those you care about.

Have a truly blessed day! Namaste.



Here are some funny thoughts to get you started. 😀

Balanced Living ~ Healthy Habits for a Happier You!

One of the things we all long for more than anything else is to simply be happy. If this is something we all seek, why is it so hard to attain? How might we reach this seemingly unattainable goal? We buy new things, and try different things, we move from one place to another and we hop from one relationship to another; or from one job to another. Nothing is truly satisfying, as we are still unhappy. Why can we never find that perfect person, place or thing to make us happy?

In considering the answers to these questions, let us contemplate some very ancient wisdom, that may help us find the answers we are seeking today.

  • “For You, O LORD, have made me glad by what You have done, I will sing for joy at the works of Your hands.” Psalms 92:4
  • “Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.” “There is no path to happiness. Happiness is the path.” ~ Buddha 
  • “Instruct those who are rich in this present world not to be conceited or to fix their hope on the uncertainty of riches, but on God, who richly supplies us with all things to enjoy.” 1 Timothy 6:17
  • “Be content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.” ~ Lao Tzu
  • “Health is the greatest possession. Contentment is the greatest treasure…..” ~ Lao Tzu

First and foremost, happiness is an inside job. You cannot acquire happiness from things that you buy, no matter how much you may briefly enjoy the things. Things never bring true happiness.

Neither relationships or your job can bring you true and lasting happiness either. You may love your partner, and enjoy your work; but neither one can bring true or lasting happiness.

There is no particular place where you can go and be happy either. We may enjoy some places more than others for sure, but as Thich Nhat Hanh says, ““The present moment is filled with joy and happiness. If you are attentive, you will see it.”
Source ― Thich Nhat HanhPeace Is Every Step: The Path of Mindfulness in Everyday Life

What then can bring you happiness? Very simply, you alone can bring you true and lasting happiness. When you genuinely love yourself, you will see how interconnected you are, and interdependent with all other living beings, you share this planet with. Seeing yourself as loved and valuable to your creator, the Divine source of all life, will also help you to see your own true worth, and gain the perspective needed to find happiness within you.

You are a beautiful and amazing creation! One of great value and precious beyond measure! So is everyone else around you. We are each a unique and precious being. Can you imagine what a beautiful world it would be, if we all treated each other with love and respect; as honored guests sharing this beautiful planet with each other?

Love is not about getting what we want from someone else. It is about giving from the gifts within our hearts, to others. Gifts of kindness, respect, compassion, caring, forgiveness and healing. Treating one another as we would like to be treated ourselves. Love gives, it never takes. If you follow the path of loving-kindness and compassion for yourself, and your fellow travelers here on this earth, you will find true happiness, peace and joy beyond any measure.

We cannot demand that others treat us how we want to be treated. That never works. It only increases our suffering, and the suffering of all those we interact with. We can however choose to treat others with kindness in all circumstances; and thus bring healing where there was only pain and strife before. Consider this ancient wisdom on healing conflicts, to reach inner peace and happiness.

  • “If a person seems wicked, do not cast him away. Awaken him with your words, elevate him with your deeds, repay his injury with your kindness. Do not cast him away; cast away his wickedness.” ~ Lao Tzu

  • “I offered My back to those who struck Me, and My cheeks to those who tore out My beard. I did not hide My face from scorn and spittle.” Isaiah 50:6
  • 38 You have heard that it was said, ‘Eye for eye and tooth for tooth.’ 39 But I tell you not to resist an evil person. If  someone  slaps  you  on your right cheek,turn to him the other also; 40 if someone wants to sue you and take your tunic, let him have your cloak as well;…” Matthew 5:38-40
  • “1Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. 18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19 Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,”d says the Lord. 20 On the contrary: “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.”21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” Romans 12

  • “Hatred never ceases by hatredbut by love alone is healed.” ~ Buddha

If you think about it, and consider what all these ancient sources of wisdom are saying,  it appears in summary, that happiness is an inside journey. You create it yourself. No one else, and nothing else can give it to you. You must create the conditions within you, and then the seeds of happiness can grow in your inner garden.

Practicing the healthy habits of treating others with love, kindness, respect and compassion will bring rewards of far greater value to you, then any amount of money can buy. Happiness comes along the path of loving-kindness, compassion and forgiveness. Give these gifts generously to yourself and to others. You will find peace and happiness when you do.

Best wishes to you my fellow travelers on your journey here. Namaste.